If this isn’t what sane people call toxic — Tell me, dear April What should I call our relationship?

There are months where you’re just not yourself. Not in a bad way but more in the “I shouldn’t like this but this is not bad even though I will definitely not be doing it in a long time” type of way. In April my weekends were booked and it wasn’t only tech events. I was on a social high and sort of liking it. I’d enjoy the whole event and crash out tired because I’m always tired after peopling but it was a rarity and rare things are meant to be enjoyed in the moment.

April started with the residuals of Eid and Atlas getting sick (Atlas is my laptop and yes my devices have names 😒) – I had to start looking for ways to get it back on its feet. It took a lot of time and waiting but we’re up and running. Hephy became my companion during the wait and I had to re-learn how to work with him again because it has been a while. I don’t feel bad for anticipating putting him back into hibernation though, he stresses me. Amidst all that we were also prepping for IWD Minna with WTM. It’s not yet time to talk about that. I’m trying to go through the weeks as I remember them.

The next week, it’s back to work and stuff. I found myself in a situation where I was bent on wearing a dress but it seems like the dress did not want to be worn. I wore it 😌_(Special thanks to my decision helper)_. That weekend I attended a birthday party and had a great time with friends. We took pictures and ate good food. That wasn’t the end though, I was bright and social at my friends surprise bridal shower playing games and having the time of my life. I had a lot of late night outs this month. This week wasn’t all rainbows though, I won’t go into details because, “consent”; but I’ll just say that Nigeria is ridiculously insecure and sometimes we forget.

On to the next week, Atlas was still down and I decided to bring in the big guns (i.e I switched repair guys). I had to sort things out with my tailor because I needed to prep things for the wedding I had to attend by the weekend (remember the bridal shower? and are you seeing how I was dancing outside my comfort zone? 😅). Once I was settled again, I went for karaoke which I had mistaken for a dinner but the friends had their fun but I wasn’t feeling up to it. We stayed out very late and my social battery depleted. I was all charged and reading for the Kamu by the next day. I don’t know where I was getting the energy but it was there. I had a great time and appreciated the gap day before the wedding Dinner, it gave me time to recharge and make additional plans. The wedding dinner was nice but I didn’t take a lot of pictures because my confidence wasn’t that high. I still enjoyed myself though (I told you, I was on an energy high). Shout out to the friend that drove me back home because uber at night? Risky 👀.

You’d think that’s all but when I said all weekends, I mean all of them. There’s still one more weekend in April and for that I travelled to Minna. On Friday, I attended two weddings, One of which was for a cousin and I got to meet family I hadn’t seen in a long while. It was fun. Minna was very hot, I got henna done and dressed up a likkle bit. On Saturday, it was off to IWD where in my opinion we had one of the greatest women centric events in a long time. It was so interactive and expressive and I’m looking forward to more things like this in the future. It really makes me happy to see how Minna has come up with regards to women in tech. After the event, I was off home to change and spend the rest of the day at the “yinin biki”. I was late and didn’t get any pictures but I still had a good chat. I spent the night with my desserts (of course I can’t be in Minna and not see them). Oh, I forgot to mention that Muffin went with me to IWD. On Sunday, before leaving, we still had time to go for a walima and that concludes my social butterfly shenanigans.

The month wasn’t just events and extrovert activities, I had time to read two books and start a new one. I read a poetry book – You only love me when I’m suffering and started a psycho book marathon with How to kill men and get away with it. I say marathon because I found out I have two more books with a similar vibe and I plan to read them all consecutively. I’m currently on How to kill your family. You see it too right? 😎 They need to be read in one swoop because the next one will be How to Murder your Employer.

This is turning out to be longer than most but that’s what happens when you actually leave the house. I still had time for academics though and for the first time, I’m not the one delaying my progress. Things slowed down by the last 3 days of April and I slept. I slept a lot. I don’t even know why I’ve been sleeping but like I said, “peopling” drains me, no matter how fun it is. Did I tell you about my mint yet? It’s thriving 💃🏾, and I took beautiful pictures of flowers this month too. I’ll add them at the end.

April was hot, really hot with some rainfall here and there but it was also fun. I went out and had a great time, even though I’m exhausted and back to staying home again. There were several disappointments but also anticipation and I now know that April is the month for my favorite flowering tree which I have decided to call the “Sakura of the Tropics”. As promised, here are some pictures of flowers. It’s definitely not perfect but when has that ever stopped me from posting pictures of nature?

And this is my Sakura of the tropics ⬇

With that I wrap up this BLAZING MONTH OF EXTROVERTISM.